Speaking for Moi: I'm warming up to the notion that some activities that I find incredibly not-draining--for instance, meeting people at live events--I've dismissed for their energy rejuvenating qualities! As though we're supposed to be doing drudgery work to justify our work. On the other side of that coin, I have been much more deliberate about gauging whether a drudgery is really that, or an opportunity in anxiety's clothing. If I wasn't anxious about something related to that activity, would it actually unlock joy and accomplishment?
Yes, making time to do things that energize you is important...for some (cough cough me cough) it might be getting out alone for a walk outside an hour a day. For you it's going to events and meeting new people (or re-connecting with people you enjoy). We can't operate without fuel, and it's OK if different people are fueled by different things.
That second part is interesting...can you say more about it? Are you saying you look at things as drudgery because deep down you're actually anxious about it for other reasons?
I’m saying sometimes it truly is drudgery. But sometimes fear makes something a drudgery. Getting past it and, say, going to a class that will help me learn a new skill, even though I’m dreading it.
Speaking for Moi: I'm warming up to the notion that some activities that I find incredibly not-draining--for instance, meeting people at live events--I've dismissed for their energy rejuvenating qualities! As though we're supposed to be doing drudgery work to justify our work. On the other side of that coin, I have been much more deliberate about gauging whether a drudgery is really that, or an opportunity in anxiety's clothing. If I wasn't anxious about something related to that activity, would it actually unlock joy and accomplishment?
Yes, making time to do things that energize you is important...for some (cough cough me cough) it might be getting out alone for a walk outside an hour a day. For you it's going to events and meeting new people (or re-connecting with people you enjoy). We can't operate without fuel, and it's OK if different people are fueled by different things.
That second part is interesting...can you say more about it? Are you saying you look at things as drudgery because deep down you're actually anxious about it for other reasons?
I’m saying sometimes it truly is drudgery. But sometimes fear makes something a drudgery. Getting past it and, say, going to a class that will help me learn a new skill, even though I’m dreading it.