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Elisa Camahort Page's avatar

This sentence is going to haunt me:

"...belief in others’ perceptions of competence over my own preferences for how I wanted to be known — personally and professionally."

I feel this pretty deeply...sometimes I feel like the details of *what* I worked on overshadowed the skills I applied to those details.

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Deb Schultz's avatar

This 👉👉👉. “At some point, however,  my Exes confined me; they created confusing subplots in my narrative. I wondered if I was saying to the world, I USED to matter. This other stuff I’m doing now, doesn’t.”

Great stuff - Framing is everything! Bravo and thanks for articulating it all- emboldens me and I’m sure others!

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Melissa's avatar

This made me think deeply. I have not given my LinkedIn account or my resume a good clean-up, and they need it. I do think of myself in terms of ex's by keeping old folders of projects in my Google Drive. So it's a private ex, but I know I keep them around because they make me feel good to see everything I've worked on. So kind of like still wearing a ring even though the marriage is over to remind myself of who I've been and what I've done. Though I need the Google Drive space, so it's probably time to clean things out.

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Elisa Camahort Page's avatar

I am not the one to help you with this...I could find any email I sent, or sent to me, in the last 20 years probably.

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Dixie Fisher's avatar

"Recruiters refer to your past companies as qualifiers" of the role they are seeking you for. And sometimes they are very unimaginative. In some of my product marketing roles, I had really broad responsibilities that went beyond traditional product marketing, like shaping and managing the industrial design process. I included that on my resume to show the breadth of my talents... but had to trim it off when recruiters sought me for roles that focused on industrial design. What I've been able to achieve in the past and what I want to focus on looking forward are usually two very different things.

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Jory Des Jardins's avatar

Right?!? Resume filters--human or otherwise--just see keywords, not experiences. And certainly not aspirations.

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